I created this website on my past experience living in a toxic relationship for 12 years. Even though, that relationship has been past gone, the pain and residue of jealousy, distrust, the physical and mental abuse still linger. There are a few factors mentioned here that have altered and scared my life forever. It has taken me into another world of hurt, confusion and loneliness. In September 2018, I became an advocate for Domestic Violence. Sharing my story with so many, it has allowed me to meet amazing and strong individuals, turning their lives around and starting over from “ground floor”!
….Stay tune, my story has only gotten better, in time you will learn what has driven me in becoming who I am today and how I continue to strive helping others in their darkest hours.
“I’m not a superman, I continue to fight my own inner demons from past endearments”!
Domestic Violence: on average 20 men and women are physically abused per minute in the US by an inmate partner daily. Domestic violence comes in many forms, from physical, verbal, mental, and sexual. Often times people think that physical abuse is the only form of domestic violence.
Jealousy: It’s a common misconception that jealousy is a sign of love.Jealousy can be a major relationship problem—a survey of marital therapists reported that romantic jealousy was a serious problem for a third of their clients. I hope to dispel the myth that jealousy is a sign of love. But if it’s not, then what really motivates jealous responses?
Research has linked several traits to greater jealousy:
Neuroticism: a general tendency to be moody, anxious, and emotionally unstable.
Feelings of insecurity and possessiveness.
Dependence on your partner: Even asking people to imagine that they don’t have good alternative partners leads to more negative reactions to hypothetical jealousy-inducing scenarios.
Feelings of inadequacy in your relationship: Generally fearing that you’re not good enough for your partner.
An anxious attachment style: A chronic orientation toward romantic relationships that involves fear that your partner will leave you or won’t love you enough. Research has shown that temporarily causing people to feel more securely attached, by asking them to think about receiving support from a loved one, makes them react less severely to a hypothetical jealousy-inducing situation.
All of these factors that relate to jealousy are about the insecurities of the jealous people, not about the love they have for their partner.
There are many forms of abuse, jealousy, bullying and causes for suicide no one person’s experience is the same. If you ever find yourself in a situation where you fear for your safety, feel threatened or fear that you have nowhere to turn in life please reach out. Please find someone that will help. People are always willing to reach out and help in any way possible.
Bullying: It affects a wide range of individuals. It can start at home, can start as young as daycare age children. There are reports of bullying all through the school aged children and it continues into adulthood. Bullying can be in the workplace, online, in the community, even in our nursing homes. Unfortunately bullying is one form of abuse that is rarely reported due to the fear of retaliation. Bullying can cause many mental health issues to develop or intensify.
Suicidal thoughts, much like mental health conditions, can affect anyone regardless of age, gender or background. In fact, suicide is often the result of an untreated mental health condition. Suicidal thoughts, although common, should not be considered normal and often indicate more serious issues.
September is Suicide Prevention Awareness Month — a time to raise awareness on this stigmatized, and often taboo, topic. In addition to shifting public perception, we use this month to spread hope and vital information to people affected by suicide. Our goal is ensuring that individuals, friends and families have access to the resources they need to discuss suicide prevention and to seek help.
Throughout the month of September, NAMI will highlight “Together for Mental Health,” which encourages people to bring their voices together to advocate for better mental health care, including a crisis response system. NAMI wants any person experiencing suicidal thoughts or behaviors to have a number to call, a system to turn to, that would connect them to the treatment and support they need.
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